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What Living Arrangements Are Acceptable When Separating?

In Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

Absolute divorce requires that couples live “separate and apart” for a period of a year before they can obtain a divorce. This can be a source of great stress for many couples. Often, living separate and apart means that instead of one mortgage or monthly rent payment, that number doubles. Thus, the separate and apart arrangement can create great financial strain for couples that may have already experienced difficulty in making ends meet. As a result, many couples try to find ways to meet this requirement without breaking the bank. Some ideas that couples have tried include sleeping in separate beds, sleeping in different bedrooms, or one spouse living in the garage. Unfortunately, under North Carolina laws, separate and apart means that couples must live in separate residences—sleeping in different …

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What Constitutes Reconciliation During a Separation?

In Separation & Divorce by Sarah Hink

Life is fluid and people change their minds all the time. We see this proven when people find themselves in cycles of breaking up then making up with a partner. Our hearts and our emotions can be unpredictable, especially when there is a shared history and an emotional investment that is hard to abruptly end. North Carolina law requires that couples separate for a year prior to seeking a divorce. This means that at least one spouse intends to separate and that they live separate and apart from one another. What many couples discover is that a year is a long time. This begs the questions: what happens when couples get back together during that year? What are the Effects of Reconciliation? When a couple reconciles during a separation period, …