Keeping Your Children Out of the Middle of a Custody Dispute

In Uncategorized by Christopher R. Hicks

You adore your children and so does their other parent. Unfortunately, when the two of you are no longer a couple, there can be a great big divide between what you both believe is best for the children. Whether you split up a week ago or years ago, your children love both their parents and are doing their best to cope. They need you at your best and to be kept out of the middle of your custody dispute. Keeping Your Children Out of the Middle Take responsibility for how you choose to interact with your former partner. Regardless of why your relationship ended and how your spouse chooses to behave, you have control over your own conduct and your reactions. Your children will always remember this time period of …

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Enforcing a Custody Order from Another State

In Uncategorized by Sarah Hink

The Uniform Child Custody Jurisdiction and Enforcement Act (UCCJEA) is a uniform set of laws recognized and adopted by 49 states (including North Carolina). The purpose of these laws and their nationwide adoption are to provide guidance when multiple states are implicated in a child custody dispute, to address parental kidnapping, and to preempt dirty tactics in child custody disputes. These laws create a protocol for recognizing and enforcing existing child custody orders, of determining what court has jurisdiction to hear a custody matter for the first time, and for determining whether temporary orders are appropriate under the circumstances. Registration of Another State’s Custody Order If you have moved to North Carolina with a valid custody order from another state, then it would be wise to speak with a family …

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Keeping Your Faith When Facing Adversity

In Separation & Divorce, Uncategorized by Christopher R. Hicks

The end of a marriage can push the strongest person in the world to their emotional limit. Divorce shatters peoples’ long-term plans, their routines, and their sense of stability—it can feel like a trap door has instantly opened beneath them. While facing this intense level of adversity, it is easy to get angry and to make decisions that are out of line with your character. But no matter how far you feel that you have fallen, always remember that you are not alone. There are friends, family, mental health professionals, and your faith to turn to. Keeping (Or Finding) Your Faith Through Adversity While religion will not necessarily give you your answers, it can offer you comfort. Beyond speaking to friends, family, or professionals, it can also be comforting to …

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A Resumption of Marital Relations

In Uncategorized by Sarah Hink

The decision to end a marriage is an incredibly heavy one. It signifies the end of one of your most significant relationships and the dissolution of your family unit. For these reasons, it is incredibly common for couples to reconcile at some point prior to actually going through with a divorce. In fact, because life is fluid and people change their minds about divorce, North Carolina has implemented legislation that a married couple must separate for an entire year before they can seek an absolute divorce. This means that they must be separated and live in different homes for at least a year before they can file a petition to divorce. While some states actually make couples wait a year and a half to seek a divorce, couples in North …

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Keeping Your Children “SAFE” (National Safe Day)

In Uncategorized by Elizabeth Stephenson

On June 4, 2013, 13-year-old Brooklynn Mae Mohler was playing at a friend’s house. Unbeknownst to Brooklynn, this friend had obtained her father’s gun from an unlocked kitchen cabinet. She pointed it at Brooklynn’s back, pulled the trigger, and fired a single bullet. This 13-year-old girl died senselessly as a result of this child’s access to an unsecured weapon.. To make sense of this horror, Brooklynn’s parents started the Brooklynn Mae Mohler Foundation (“Justice for Brooklynn”), which advocates for responsible gun ownership. In memory of their daughter, they also initiated National SAFE Day on June 4 to mark their daughter’s death. “SAFE” is an acronym for: S– Secure all firearms in the home A – Ask the question about unsecured firearms in the homes your child visits F – Frequently …

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Advice for a Happy Mother’s Day

In Uncategorized by Sarah Hink

If you are separated from the mother of your child, Mother’s Day can be a very emotional day. You aren’t with your children, you are being excluded from a family celebration, and you have memories of when you all used to celebrate this occasion together. It is natural to have a lot of feelings on this specific day. As a single father on Mother’s Day, we would suggest that you heed the following advice. Most custody orders and agreements account for whom the children will spend holidays with. Mothers will get Mother’s Day, while fathers will get Father’s Day. It is important to abide by any custody agreement or order. Failure to abide by your agreement or orders can have serious long-term consequences. Understand that personal-issues aside, your children need …

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What Are You Thankful For?

In Health, Lifestyle, Uncategorized by Sarah Hink

Although Thanksgiving is in the rearview mirror, it is never too late to reflect. This has been a turbulent year. No matter what side of the political spectrum you fall, no one can dispute that deep ideological divisions have been exposed in this country. To make matters worse, it feels like the national dialogue is deteriorating to the point that people seem unwilling to work toward unity or constructive conversation. While negative forces and events seem to grab and keep our attention, it is important for our mental health not to lose sight of the positive. We need a chance to reflect on the good in our lives and now is a great opportunity to do so. Please heed the following advice when celebrating this holiday season. Make a list …

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Meeting With Your Attorney? Here’s How You Can Prepare

In Uncategorized by Sarah Hink

Are you meeting with your new attorney for the first time? Are you feeling nervous or unprepared? Don’t worry. At New Direction Family Law, we have represented clients for 20 years, and your feelings are completely natural and normal. But think about why you called an attorney: because you need help from a professional. Your attorney works for you, and wants to be successful in representing you. In order for this attorney client relationship to be successful, there are several steps you can do in advance of your initial meeting. If you are have been served with a separation, divorce, child custody, or child support petition, bring a copy of every piece of paper you have received. Your attorney will need this information in order to obtain records from the clerk …