All Treats, No Tricks: Tips for Co-Parenting this Halloween | New Direction Family Law Wake County NC

All Treats, No Tricks: Tips for Co-Parenting this Halloween

In Child Custody by Sarah Hink

All Treats, No Tricks: Tips for Co-Parenting this Halloween | New Direction Family Law Wake County NCHalloween after divorce does not have to be scary, even if you are sharing custody of the children with your ex.  Sometimes your separation agreement or custody order may speak to how you are to split the fall holiday, either with the non-custodial parent getting a few hours that day or by alternating the holiday annually. However, many times Halloween is not addressed alongside the major holidays in ordinary custody arrangements, or perhaps you do not yet have a formalized custody agreement. Regardless, Halloween can still be happy and fun for both parents and child, and should be! Here are a few tips to help make co-parenting on Halloween a treat for everyone:

Actively communicate

As always, everyone’s case is different, but, if it is possible, both parents should be actively involved in preparing for the holiday. The children might tell each parent something different in terms of what they want their costume to be.  Communication is key in co-parenting, even more so around the holidays. So speak with each other and decide on what costumes the children will wear and what neighborhoods they will trick-or-treat in.  It may be possible for the children to have two different costumes if celebrating separately.  Either way, be on the same page.

Try trick-or-treating together, but be honest

If your relationship with your ex allows it, go together with the children for trick-or-treating. This is only for those who can seriously spend time together without bickering over what candy the children should and should not accept, and what houses are deemed appropriate to visit. It is better to acknowledge your inability to get along than subject your child to arguments that may take away from their Halloween fun.

Find alternative Fall/Halloween Festivities

If spending the holiday together with the children is not possible, there are other ways to be sure both parents are able to partake in festivities.  If both parents live close to each other, try spending an hour with each parent for trick-or-treating. This will likely not work for most people, however, there are other opportunities to share in the fun if you are not the custodial parent on Halloween. Often times schools will have costume days, or you and the children could attend a local “Trunk and Treat” that falls during your custodial time. Some towns will have fall street festivals on the weekends which would be a perfect opportunity for you and the kids to get out, dress up, and celebrate the season.

Regardless of your relationship with your ex-spouse, you have the ability to make and keep Halloween fun for your children.  As with all holidays, if Halloween does not fall on your custodial time, do not guilt the children for having fun with the other parent.  Make your own plans that day and take some time to treat yourself this Halloween.

Sarah J. Hink
New Direction Family Law

New Direction Family Law
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