How to Solve the Stress of the Single Parenting Equation | New Direction Family Law Raleigh NC

How to Solve the Stress of the Single Parenting Equation

In Parenting by Elizabeth Stephenson

Which formula is easier to solve?

A: (E/Fp)-(1-apT+pT2)/(E(Fpm)) or

B: Finding the right formula to reduce the stress of being a single parent?

Well that’s a no brainer …or is it?

How to Solve the Stress of the Single Parenting Equation | New Direction Family Law Raleigh NCDid you know that one of every four American children live in a single-parent home?  That means if you’re a single parent, you’ve got lots of company and lots of experience with trial and error to help you find your single parent mojo.

The circumstances may vary (some parents are divorced, others are widowed, and others are single parents by choice), but for many, the reality is that single parenting can be stressful, demanding, and hectic. If you are a single mom or dad, there are strategies to help reduce the stress in your life that can lead to a whole new exciting and joyful way of parenting.

Step 1: Say NO to guilt.

It’s easy to focus on what you don’t have and can’t buy or the amount of time you may be away from your children because of work.  It’s better to focus on all the things you can and do accomplish each and every day and all the things you do provide.  I challenge you to write down all the things you do each day for children.  You’ll be surprised at how long that list will be!  You go Wonder Woman or Super Man! You’re also setting a great example for your children on how to deal with the challenges they will face throughout their lives.  Love, attention, comfort, security – these are all necessities and staples you can provide at no cost to your children.

Step 2: Build a support network.

A network can be you and one other person who knows another single mom or dad who then knows another…well you get the idea. Just because you’re a “single” parent doesn’t mean you are alone.  Family and friends are the most obvious choice, but branch out – find play dates or playgroups and think about joining a support group for other divorced parents. Focus on helping your child (and yourself) get the help and support you need.

Step 3: Get Healthy!

Get moving and take care of yourself!  (1) Eating right (2) exercising and (3) getting enough sleep are MUSTS for reducing stress.  It can be a challenge with a hectic routine, school, work and extracurricular activities. But think of it this way: Without proper nutrition, exercise and sleep, your immune system can be compromised. This can lead to you getting sick, which can lead to your children getting sick. Again, you’re also setting a great example for your children on how to honor and take care of their own bodies, mind and spirit.

Step 4: Take Time

I know…easier said than done. Take time for your children even as you hear the piles of dirty laundry and stacks of dishes beckoning for your attention.  Carve out time for playing, reading, going for a walk, or just being together. And most important, remember you are family and the foundation of that builds on the love and stability you provide for yourself and your children.

(No guilt + Support) x (Health/Time) = Stress Reduction

Now that is a winning formula for you and your children! Who said math was hard?!
 
 
Elizabeth Stephenson
New Direction Family Law

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