Everyone wants it all: love, a happy family, children, a sense of greater purpose, community, career success, and wealth. In reality, a lot of people discover that for them, the concept of a work-life balance to be a complete sham. Even the most organized and “put-together” people have trouble meeting their own expectations when it comes to the demands of marriage, children, and career. It becomes even harder to find any sort of satisfactory balance when you are experiencing a separation and divorce. It is, however, possible to take steps to adjust and survive with your career intact.
- Know your limits. First, it is important to acknowledge that you are in a traumatic process and that you are not at your best. This means that you have permission to do your best, rather than constantly going above and beyond, or volunteering yourself for additional responsibilities. Take personal leave once in a while, or just take some time to go for a walk to clear your mind during a break.
- Communicate with your employer. If you have some level of trust with your boss, communicate clearly that you are in the process of a separation and divorce and that there may be outside commitments that you may need to take leave for. In addition, be sure to always provide advanced, written notice to your employer of any leave you intend to take.
- Make a list of what is troubling you. It is easy to become distracted by the emotions and the magnitude of this period in your life. This distraction can cause you to become stuck in a memory or a thought that you can’t seem to move past. It may help you to write down your thought, so that you can come back to it later.
- Keep your commitments. In either your work life or your personal life, be sure to stick to your word. Religiously maintain your work and personal calendars to ensure that you are reminded of all your important events and tasks.
- Remain responsive. If a boss, coworker, client, or customer calls or emails you, be sure to respond in a timely manner. The last thing you want to do is to feed a perception that you are distracted.
Let New Direction Family Law Assist You
New Direction Family Law offers representation and legal counsel for people seeking resolution regarding separations, divorces, and child custody issues. Our attorneys are compassionate and experienced, and will work hard to advocate your interests. This is a tough time in your life and you need someone in your corner who is mindful of this and wants to help you move forward. If you need help, contact our office today. Our firm serves Wake, Johnston, Durham, and surrounding counties. Contact New Direction Family Law today at (919) 719-3470 to schedule a consultation, or visit us at our website.
Sarah J. Hink
New Direction Family Law