Independence Day is upon us. With it comes a day off, family and friends, hot dogs, parties, and fireworks. It is also an opportunity to reflect on the many facets of what independence means: the historic independence of our Country from British rule, independence as individual Americans with the rights of equal protection and due process, independence from our parents as adults, and our autonomy to make decisions for ourselves.
There is great value in every aspect of our independence, and if you have separated or divorced a spouse, Independence Day is a prime day to reflect on what we have.
During your former marriage, you may not have agreed with the way money was being spent or may have been removed from financial decisions. Following your separation or divorce, even if you are paying alimony and or/child support, you are now entirely free to make whatever financial decisions you please with what is remaining. You also no longer have to worry about your ex running up your credit card or harming your credit. You are now in the driver’s seat when it comes to your financial health.
It is easy to get wrapped up in the thoughts, beliefs, and values of your partner. Whether its regarding your moral, political, social, or religious values, many people tend to share their partner’s beliefs. If your spouse is strong willed or passionate about certain beliefs, it is not uncommon to take these on as your own. Separation brings about an opportunity for some distance for reflection and introspection. What is really important to you? Why? What are your values? Independence gives you the space to better understand yourself.
Finally, married people spend a lot of their free time together. It is inevitable that married people spend less time with their friends, tend to make new friends as couples, and fall into patterns of daily activity together. There are both positives and negatives that come with all of this; however, recognize that your post-separation life does not have to follow that same formula. If you are dissatisfied with aspects of your life and want to make changes, you now have a chance to try something new. Even if you share custody with your ex, you are still going to have a lot more time to yourself than before.
Let New Direction Family Law Assist You
New Direction Family Law is a family law firm that helps people to navigate the difficult processes of separation, divorce, and child custody issues. Our attorneys are passionate and dedicated to helping you reach your best outcome so that you can move in your new direction. If you need legal advice or representation, contact our office today. Our firm serves Wake, Johnston, Durham, and surrounding counties. Contact New Direction Family Law today at (919) 719-3470 to schedule a consultation, or visit us at our website.
Sarah J. Hink
New Direction Family Law