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Parenting and Healthy Boundaries

In Parenting, Relationships by Sarah Hink

Family dynamics with your parents and other relatives can be incredibly complex. A lot of the parenting decisions and methods that your parents utilized or that you witnessed of extended family—for better or worse—have impacted who you are as an adult and how you raise your own children. When you have children, it can therefore be confusing as you try to balance your own values of how you want to parent your children, versus the unsolicited advice that you receive from your family and friends. When you are a new parent, you will probably experience the gravitational pull that young children seem to have on your parents, your siblings, and your extended family. This is natural as your kids are adorable. However, with this increased exposure and access to family …

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Healthy Boundaries After a Separation

In Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

North Carolina is an absolute divorce state, meaning that couples must wait a year and a day to file for divorce. This year can be a confusing and troubling time, as you are still married but are expected to live separate and apart from one another. This is much easier said than done, as life is fluid and we fondly remember the good times. Or sometimes you simply miss your former partner and want to get back together. Reconciliation is not at all uncommon. However, when you have made a final decision that you want a divorce, it is important to take a thoughtful approach to staying separated and limiting your contact with your former partner. Follow these suggestions to establish and enforce healthy boundaries. If you don’t have a …

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Establishing Boundaries After a Divorce

In Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

It is easy to lose oneself in a long-term relationship. You are in love and your lives quickly gel in a way that your worlds revolve around one another and your identities become linked. In addition, your friends and family become enmeshed and together you are part of a community. When you have children together, this long-term link takes on another dimension as you are forever co-parents to your beloved children. Unfortunately, when marriages end, partners are forced to sever all of these links that have been formed and to find a way to move forward. It is hard. And even “amicable” separations are hardly ever clean. In fact, it can take a great deal of work to move on after a divorce. Something that helps in this process is …