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Dating After Divorce: Tips and What to Expect

In Separation & Divorce by Jennifer Bordeaux

Valentine’s Day has just passed and if you’re separated or divorced, romantic dinners, red roses and heart-shaped boxes full of chocolates were probably the last thing you wanted to think about. However, there will come a time that you may feel you’re ready to get “back in saddle” and re-enter the dating world in search of that companion that will renew your faith in love and happiness, but that may be a little easier said than done. The pace and expectations of today’s dating scene may be quite a bit different than they were the last time you went on a date. What is expected on the first date? Is texting ok? Is the guy still expected to pay? What if this date is a waste of time? Re-entering the …

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Adultery, Child Custody and Alimony: Private Investigators and Family Law Matters

In Child Custody, Separation & Divorce by Pat Williams

If you are interested in finding a private investigator for your domestic case, please find someone who focuses on this aspect of investigation rather than a generalist.  When making your selection to locate a private investigator, be sure to select one that specializes in Family Law Investigations.  Those who are seasoned professionals know and understand the evidence necessary in order to prevail in court. Here are three primary ways private investigators assist in family law investigations. Adultery.  There are two elements of adultery. Inclination which is the show of affection, handholding, kissing, hugging or even a touch on the face is a strong indicator your husband or wife and this significant other person are more than just friends. Additionally, it is the responsibility of the investigator to find opportunity, the …

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Do’s and Don’ts for Dating After Divorce

In Separation & Divorce by Angela Kelley

With Valentine’s Day just a few weeks away, the media is bombarding us all with ads for candy, flowers, jewelry and gifts. So it makes sense that we are all a little more focused on love these days.  But as someone recently divorced or just getting back into the dating scene after a long break, you might naturally feel some anxiety or confusion about what to do in our ever-changing world. Here are a few quick tips to help you get back on track if you are interested in rejuvenating your love life: Make Self- Care Your #1 Priority: Before you even consider dating anyone, you must first make a practice of being kind to your self on a daily basis. This self-care can be as simple as taking a …

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Parenting after Divorce

In Child Custody, Separation & Divorce by Whitney Wall

Divorce creates many obstacles that can leave both parties feeling defeated. For those with children, none may feel more trying (or important) than the challenges that come with co-parenting. Before making any co-parenting decisions, it is important to prepare for opposing opinions. Most likely, the same differences that stressed your marriage will manifest as you work to establish a parenting plan post divorce. Unless your child’s immediate safety is a concern, part of the process is accepting that these differences/challenges will exist. Once we accept the challenges, we are in a better position to act on what we can control (and understand that some things may be out of our control). The next time you hit a co-parenting roadblock, try one or more of the below suggestions designed to help …

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How Does Divorce Affect Filing Taxes?

In Separation & Divorce, Wealth by Lisa Eyrolles

If you are going through a divorce, taxes might be the last thing on your mind, and rightly so. But tax season is upon us and your divorce could affect how you file your taxes.  As we head into this year’s tax season, here are some things to consider: Filing Status. Will you file married filing joint (lower tax rate) or file married filing separate (higher tax rate and less tax benefits)? Who Will Claim the Children’s Exemption? If you are the custodial parent and you support the child more than half the year than you are entitled to take their exemption, but it is possible for the non-custodial parent to claim the exemption as long as the custodial parent signs a waiver pledging that he or she won’t claim …

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How to File a Restraining Order in North Carolina

In Domestic Violence by Sarah Hink

A majority of women will experience physical abuse at some time in their life, and most likely at the hands of an intimate partner.  While not nearly as common, men too can be the victims of domestic violence.  While it is easy for us outside of the relationships to say we would leave at the first act of abuse, there are actually strong emotional and psychological forces that keep victims with their abuser. Many victims are economically dependent on the abuser and have been isolated from family members or friends who would be able to provide extra support.  There are cultural and religious constraints that may keep these relationships together, the desire to stay together for the children, and hope that the abuser will one day change. If you are …

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When Separate Property Becomes Marital Property

In Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

When it comes to property division, North Carolina is an equitable distribution state. Essentially, a court takes all marital property and divisible property and considers numerous factors in determining an equitable division between the couple. A big source of conflict in property division proceedings is how property is classified as separate or marital property. This is because as a general rule, a person’s separate property remains with them and is not considered as part of the estate. Separate property includes property that a person owns prior to their date of marriage, inheritance or gifts that are specifically left to that person during the marriage from a third party, and a gift from one spouse to another during a marriage that is specifically intended to be separate property. While the definition …

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Looking 4 A Better Life After Divorce?

In 4 A Better Life, Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

Your past experiences are valuable lessons to you, now learn from them. “Oh yes, the past can hurt. But you can either run from it, or learn from it.” – Rafiki, from The Lion King I love the Lion King movie.  In fact I’m a little bummed that my son is too old for Disney movies.  There’s that pivotal moment when Simba’s past comes to haunt him and the young Prince must decide his fate: Will he remain an outcast, or face his demons and become what he needs to be?  It’s a crossroads many of us face when going through separation, divorce or loss of a relationship.  Do I stay mired in this pain and hurt?  Or do I face the hard choices and facts of my life and …

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Considering Divorce in 2017? Things to Know Before You Go

In Separation & Divorce by Sarah Hink

The New Year is upon us, and many people, myself included, start reflecting on all the wonderful and maybe not-so-wonderful things that happened in the past year and begin to make resolutions to make next year happier and healthier. Sometimes resolutions include focusing on our individual wellbeing and the events or people that caused the turbulent times during the past year.  Unless there was a traumatic triggering event, such as discovering infidelity or domestic abuse, people often mull over the decision to separate from their spouse for quite some time.  Maybe you spent the last year in counseling and nothing has changed, or perhaps you’ve been unhappy and quietly thinking it over for years and this is the year that things are going to change.  Or you could be separating …

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Financial Guide To Navigating Life’s Changes

In Wealth by Chauncey Minnick

The only constant in life seems to be change, and navigating the way forward can be confusing and complex.  Divorce and splitting of financial assets can be one of the most challenging changes in life, however with a little planning, preparation, and a few financial tips you can avoid mistakes and gain some peace of mind. Spitting Investment Assets It might seem like your primary residence is the biggest asset in a divorce, but don’t overlook investment accounts like 401ks, Traditional and Roth IRAs, etc.  These accounts can hold hundreds of thousands of dollars, and serious financial implications if divided incorrectly.  First, 401ks and other tax-deferred accounts should be specified in a proper legal documentation prepared by your family law attorney.  Second, IRAs can be transferred tax-free through IRA to …