Mother’s Day and Custody Conflicts

In Child Custody, Domestic Violence, Separation & Divorce by Elizabeth Stephenson

Mother’s Day. A day to celebrate mothers. Their love, their sacrifices, and everything they do for us. Sounds pretty straightforward, right? Unfortunately, when it comes to separated or divorced parents, Mother’s Day is far from a simple holiday.

When parents split custody, Mother’s Day can take on a whole new meaning. For the mother, it can mean spending a peaceful day with the kids. It is an opportunity for mom who works so hard to know that her kids love and appreciate her. On the other hand, for the father, it can be a day of nostalgia—of great sentimentality in which he remembers better times with his family. The day can be a reminder of warm memories that he shared and celebrated with the mother of his children.

Some Simple Advice

Unfortunately, matters involving children and families are highly emotionally loaded and Mother’s Day is no exception. Our office has seen it all, ranging from the awkward to the illegal. We therefore wanted to leave you with some simple advice for the future on how to celebrate this wonderful, yet perilous day.

  1. First, a good parenting plan is a must. When you are in the process of creating or modifying an existing parenting plan for the children, it is standard to account for holidays as part of this plan. Any competent lawyer will fight for their mother client to have the children on Mother’s Day. This order will set the holiday in stone and avoid any confusion or conflict about who can legally have the children.
  2. Mother’s Day is a day in which law enforcement sees a spike in incidents of family disturbances. If there is any threat or potential for violence, talk to a lawyer to make sure that all necessary legal precautions are taken. The team at New Direction Family Law has extensive experience in advocating for our clients’ safety. It would also be prudent to speak with a domestic violence shelter for information about community resources. If the threat is imminent or life threatening, call law enforcement. In addition, take any commonsense precautions to keep yourself and the children safe.
  3. If you are the mother of children and do not have custody of the children by court order, do not attempt to force visitation. If you believe that you should have Mother’s Day visitation, speak to your lawyer about modifying your parenting plan.
  4. If you are a father who does not have custody of the children, do not attempt to interfere. It is essential for your future visitation and access to the children that you respect the court’s orders. Exercise proper self-care and care for the children by demonstrating healthy boundaries. For example, choose to spend the day with friends, doing something you love, like fishing, playing golf, or going to the beach.

Let New Direction Family Law Assist You

Holidays can be incredibly difficult when it comes to child custody. We can help you. Whether you are looking for options to protect yourself and the children, or whether you believe that your parenting plan should be modified, call us. The team at New Direction Family Law will listen to you and provide you with thoughtful, compassionate legal advice. We serve Wake, Johnston, Lee, Harnett, Cumberland, Nash, Granville, Franklin, and Durham counties. Contact our office today at (919) 719-3470 to schedule a consultation, or visit us at our website.