Making the Most of Your Visitation

In Child Custody by Elizabeth Stephenson

Children really grow up fast. Not too long ago, you were watching them learn to walk. The next thing you know, they’re potty trained. Then, you blink and find yourself having complete conversations with them and fear that they may already be smarter than you. The journey is a real blessing.

Unfortunately, life tends to throw many distractions our way, which limits our time with our children and prevents us from being as present as we want to be. This is particularly true when you are in the midst of a child custody dispute, or if an agreement or custody order don’t provide you as much visitation with your children as you want. Some parents also have trouble getting past their conflict with the other parent, that they allow it to cast a cloud over their relationship with their children.

If you take an honest look at your situation and find that you are not making the most of your visitation with your children, then consider the following thoughts. You don’t want to look back upon their childhood and have regrets.

  • Your children need you. It is in children’s best interest to have a supportive, loving relationship with both parents. Any expert who treats children will tell you that children whose parents are both involved in their lives tend to have better outcomes academically, socially, and emotionally. This is why public policy dictates that parents should be provided ample visitation to foster that continuing parent-child bond.
  • On that note, make sure that you exercise all visitation with your children. You need to demonstrate to your children (and to the court) that you are committed to them. Your children will feel disappointed and unimportant if you are inconsistent in visiting with them. This visitation must be your priority over other professional and social obligations.
  • Make plans for your visits. Look up free family events on the internet, establish family traditions, continue old ones, and engage in their hobbies with them. You are in the driver’s seat during your visitation and can create forever memories for your children and for yourself.
  • Live in the moment when you are with your kids. If you find yourself getting distracted, make a note on your phone so you can get back to it later. Talk to your children, find out what they are interested in, guide them through their fears. In other words, notice them. You won’t regret it.

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