New Years Day comes once a year, and with it the tradition of making resolutions. For some, the resolution is to be healthier. Others resolve to be kinder. Some people aim to spend less money. If you have recently separated or divorced, we urge you to take advantage of this perfect opportunity to focus on your new direction. We hope that in doing so, you truly have a great new year and that you bear the following in mind.
- Vow to be kinder to yourself. Separation and divorce can bring out your worst. Everyone has a different experience and you are going through your own. The fact is, you are not always going to make the perfect decisions along the way. Resolve to forgive yourself.
- Resolve to bring true closure to the relationship that ended. Establish healthy communication boundaries with your former partner. If your divorce has been finalized, take all of the logistical steps to move forward, such as considering a legal name change, updating your ID’s, informing financial institutions, updating your insurance beneficiaries and emergency contact, and updating your will.
- Think about your values and what is really important to you. Write these values down and keep them in your phone or on your desk. This will guide you toward resolutions that mean something to you.
- Make goals that are realistic and attainable. Know in your mind what success looks like. Further, be sure that you can sustain your resolution. Most of us make the mistake of shooting for the moon when making our resolutions. As a result, we burn out and end up quickly breaking our resolutions. For example, making a plan to do intense Crossfit training ten times per week, when you haven’t been to the gym in nine months, may sound great; however, this is simply not sustainable. There is nothing wrong with taking small steps.
- Be sure that you don’t fall into an “all or nothing” mentality regarding your resolutions. This is something that a lot of us do. An example of this might be to resolve to eat healthier, but you have an off day and declare your resolution “broken”.
Contact New Direction Family Law
New Direction Family Law is a family law firm that provides strong, effective legal representation for separations, divorces, property division, alimony, child custody, and child support issues. We understand that resolving these issues will help you move in your new direction and are highly motivated to represent you well. Our firm represents clients in Wake, Johnston, Lee, Harnett, Cumberland, Nash, Granville, Franklin, and Durham counties. Call New Direction Family Law at (919) 719-3470 to schedule an appointment, or contact us online at our website.