Wedding planners and venues will tell you that June is one of the most popular wedding months of the entire year. One of the reasons for this is the origin of the month’s name. June was named for the Roman goddess Juno, who happened to be the goddess of marriage, who protected women and blessed marriage and fertility. For more practical purposes, June marks the beginning of summer, meaning the wedding party and guests are more available to attend the festivities.
If you have recently separated or divorced, wedding season can be a tough time for you. Getting invitations, seeing the endless wedding preparation photos on Facebook, and hearing from friends and family about plans can be a brutal reminder of what you once had—and what you have lost. It can also be an awkward time, as your friends and family want to be inclusive, but would like nothing more than to avoid the elephant in the room of your divorce.
You are also in a tough spot. You don’t want to be a drag and bring down a celebration, but you also don’t want to be relegated to the “singles” table or the “teenagers” table at the wedding reception. Here are some ideas of coping with wedding season.
- Temporarily stop following people on social media or take them off your newsfeed if they continue to over-share about their upcoming wedding. You really don’t need this information overload at this point in your life.
- Find yourself a support group or a Meetup group of newly divorced people. People in similar circumstances can be a sounding board and may provide you with some helpful insights based on their own experiences.
- If you are not close to the couple getting married, it is alright to say no. If they are acquaintances or distant relatives, then give yourself permission to sit out their wedding. Instead, plan a trip or find another way to get out of the house.
- If you have been asked to be part of the wedding party, such as a groomsman or bridesmaid, try to take this as a positive. You should be honored that you have friends or family members who value you to this extent and want you to play a ceremonial role in this beginning of their lives together. In addition, it is really important to remain active and social following a separation. You also need to protect yourself, which means that you should sit down with the couple and have a clear and open discussion about your feelings and any boundaries that may help you fulfill your duties.
- Humor and honesty can go a long way toward acknowledging your situation and normalizing it. If you put it out there and address the elephant in the room early, then you can move forward and may actually enjoy yourself.
New Direction Family Law
New Direction Family Law is a full service family law firm. We offer legal guidance and counsel for separations and divorces, child custody matters, the equitable distribution of property, alimony, and child support issues. These are all delicate and important issues that can have a tremendous bearing on your life and happiness. This motivates us to provide strong, thoughtful, and respectful legal representation to every client. Contact New Direction Family Law at (919) 719-3470 to schedule an appointment, or contact us through our website.