For many, Thanksgiving is a time for family, food, and football. For others, it is just the day before Black Friday, the ultimate frenzy of overnight lineups for doorbuster deals, big savings on items we would otherwise have no desire to purchase, and debt. Some people spend the days and weeks prior to Black Friday looking at ads, compiled lists of deals, and message board rumors. Making matters worse, many retailers open on Thanksgiving Day, which changes the entire focus of the day for shoppers and for the unfortunate employees of those companies. This is immediately followed up by retailers’ second bite at the apple: Cyber Monday.
While everybody loves a good deal, Black Friday and Cyber Monday have become reflective of a greater problem: Our incessant need to distract ourselves. To distract ourselves with shopping and consumption, with the internet, with the non-stop news cycle, and with social media. We ask that you consider the following:
- Keep things in perspective. Do you remember the massive 2013 store brawl at Walmart in Elkin? That was over a cheap flat-screen television. This year, before you physically seek out that fancy waffle maker you’ll use once, that “smart” speaker you have no desire to learn to set up, or that low quality laptop with a price that’s too good to be true, first ask yourself the following questions: Do I need this? Why do I need this? Is this even going to come out of its box? Would I ever buy this if it wasn’t 40% off?
- Practice moderation. Black Friday and Cyber Monday are about extreme deals, about competing with other buyers to get the best deals, and about retailers going to great lengths to one-up each other and draw in the most customers. It is easy to fall into the trap of going overboard, as the very nature of these retailer-created holidays is to go all out. Don’t throw away your sense of financial discipline or your budget by taking this holiday shopping too far.
- Is your reliance on these activities a way of blowing off steam, or is it to the point of being unhealthy? What starts out as fun and exciting can, for some people, become and unhealthy means of coping or avoiding underlying feelings. Internet addiction is very real, as is shopping addiction. If you feel that your need for distraction is closer to the unhealthy end of the spectrum, give yourself permission to seek help. Determining what you are attempting to distract yourself from is the first step toward a healthier tomorrow.
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